How to Think Critically and Open-Mindedly about Different Perspectives: Unlocking Better Conversations
They say curiosity killed the cat, but I’d argue it brought me back to life. Here’s the thing: sometimes the best way to find common ground is to dive into a conversation like you’ve never heard of the topic before. In fact, “playing dumb” or throwing out a hot take are my favorite tools for keeping conversations fresh and insightful. Here’s how you can use these techniques to enrich your conversations — and maybe, just maybe, learn something surprising along the way.
1. Play Dumb and Listen
Acting like you’re a blank slate is a classic technique for two reasons. First, it disarms people. When you approach a topic with genuine curiosity, it shows respect and encourages the other person to share more openly. Imagine asking, “Wait, so you mean you really believe that?” It’s a playful way to get to the heart of their beliefs without challenging them outright. This technique works wonders, especially when talking to people with different perspectives.
In Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman talks about how our brains often jump to conclusions without enough information. By “playing dumb,” you’re actually training yourself to gather more data before making any judgment — a crucial part of critical thinking.
2. The Hot Take Approach
The hot take approach is like throwing a curveball. Picture this: someone makes a bold statement, and instead of shutting it down, you jump in with, “Wow, so you’re saying there’s no situation where you’d ever change your mind on this?” This approach lets you explore their viewpoint to the fullest, while also challenging them to explain it in greater detail.
When I first tried this technique, I was surprised at how eager people were to go deeper into their beliefs. Plus, it’s a great way to keep the conversation lively and — if you’re lucky — steer it into new territory.
3. Stay Curious and Critical
The trick to all of this? Patience. You’re not trying to win an argument or prove anyone wrong. You’re genuinely curious. The point isn’t to mold someone else’s views but to expand your own. In Range, David Epstein discusses how diverse perspectives and experiences contribute to better problem-solving and innovation. The key is staying open and critical at the same time, embracing different viewpoints as a way to refine your own thinking.
Why This Matters to You
The beauty of conversation lies in the unexpected. By using these techniques, you’re not just chatting — you’re building bridges. You’re learning to see the world through someone else’s eyes, and along the way, you’ll find your own perspective growing richer and more nuanced. It’s not about winning; it’s about discovering something new and intriguing every time you engage.
Next time you find yourself in a conversation, try one of these techniques. Play dumb, throw out a hot take, or just stay open and curious. You never know — you might just walk away with a fresh perspective or, better yet, a new friend.
